How do you talk to a family member about the need for assisted living?

  1. Molly Dworken 10/16/2012 05:33PM

    If possible, the best approach is to broach the subject gradually over a period of several weeks or several months. Speak in a calm, low-key way without being overly insistent, presenting assisted living as an option for making life less stressful and more enjoyable for the family member while at the same time reducing worries about home maintenance or chores.

    If declining health or concerns over the individual's safety have precipitated the need for assisted living, express your concerns in a heartfelt and loving way. Explain that assisted living will help ensure his or her safety since there are staff members there to monitor the residents' health, make sure that they are taking their medication properly, and help them in case of emergency. Acknowledge your family member's feelings about how hard it will be to move from a home with so many happy memories, but stress that your No. 1 priority is his or her health and wellbeing.

    Offer to do some research to educate your family member and yourself about the advantages and amenities of various assisted living communities in your area. Show your family member the websites of some of the communities that you feel may be right for him or her. Suggest going on a tour of some of the most appealing locations so that your family member can see firsthand what specific assisted living communities have to offer.