Christmas Confusion: When a Parent Has Dementia, “Enter Their Reality”

Merry Christmas!

We hope you’re having a wonderful holiday season. Here’s a quick tip to hopefully help today go smoother: If a loved one with dementia is included in your festivities and things get confusing for the person, just go with the flow—their flow, advises Boca Home Care Services in South Florida. From the agency’s blog:

All the activity is stimulating for everyone, even more so for many elderly. If you have a parent in a congregate living arrangement but home for the holiday dinner, it may be even more overwhelming for them out of their routine. For  someone with a Dementia or cognitive/memory impairment it is important to show compassion for them where they are in time. No need to challenge or correct their version of what is occuring. It is easier and more helpful to enter their reality with them.

We hope today goes wonderfully for you. But nobody’s Christmas is a Hallmark card. Here’s to compassion and, when warranted, laughter when things don’t quite go as planned.

Leigh Ann Otte is a freelance writer who specializes in health and aging issues. She covers finding and paying for senior care for OurParents. If you have any questions about this post or need help finding senior-care options for a loved one, call 1-866-483-4896 to speak with a care advisor in your area.

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One comment on “Christmas Confusion: When a Parent Has Dementia, “Enter Their Reality”
  1. Amanda Frank says:

    My thoughts are with anyone who has a parent or parents with dementia. My mother was diagnosed with dementia and although it wasn’t a complete shock to us, because we knew something was wrong, it rocked our worlds. Ever since her diagnosis my siblings, father and I have been trying to read all we can about it and how other people are dealing with it. I just finished a great book that I’d like to recommend to anyone else going through this same ordeal; it’s called “I Will Never Forget” by Elaine C. Pereira. You can check her and the book out on her website It was a really great read. Thanks for this post!

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