Communication Articles

Critical conversations need to be had with your parents prior to the move to a senior living community. Difficult discussions may also be required between family members who have different opinions about the best way to care for your parents. Good communication is always crucial to a successful move.

How to Help Grandmother Feel in Control of Nursing-Home Move

If you’re worried about an aging loved one and think it’s time for long-term care, be careful how you present the idea, suggests a column at The Tidewater News, a newspaper in Franklin, VA. Like anyone else, older people want to have control over their lives. So try to help your loved one make the decision in their own mind.

Approach your grandmother by saying “we are concerned about you grandma.” …Read more ›

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Consider Personality When Talking Finances With Elderly Parents, CPA Says

When talking to your elderly parents about finances, what you really need to be thinking about isn’t business, says one certified public accountant. It’s psychology.

At the website for New Jersey newspaper The Record, a reader asks for tips on talking to aging parents about their finances and legal documents, such as wills and powers of attorney. How do you start that conversation so you can be sure they have what they need?

The answer depends on your …Read more ›

The Right Way to Fight With Siblings About Elderly Parents

Do you know how to fight right? If you disagree with siblings about what to do for elderly parents, elder-care mediator Carolyn Rosenblatt has some tips for you.

At Forbes.com, she lists seven ground rules to establish when heated discussions loom. For example, if you’re dealing with a brother or sister who’s feeling overwhelmed:

Ask your sibling what he or she needs. It sounds simple, but this rarely happens. You can find …Read more ›

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What Does “We’re Managing Fine” Really Mean for Eldery Parents?

Senior-care experts advise over and over to make decisions about long-term care before a crisis strikes. And that’s just what Marni Jameson and her family did, but it took a year of talking to get there.

Jameson recounts her family’s journey in a column featured in the Orlando Sentinel. She says her brother had been bringing up concerns about their elderly parents for a year. He’d seen some of the typical signs …Read more ›

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Have You Asked the Right Questions About Your Parents’ Money?

You may have already heard that if you have elderly parents, you should talk to them about their finances. But do you know why? It’s not just to find out whether they have enough set aside to pay for long-term care, says elder-care advisor Carolyn Rosenblatt at Forbes.com. It’s also to get necessary information in case of emergency:

Imagine your parent with a stroke, unable to speak. Or your parent falls …Read more ›

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Christmas and Elderly Parents: How to Open the Door to Difficult Topics

Christmas day may not be the time to talk about long-term care plans. But it’s a good time for a precursor conversation, says Bob Mauterstock, author of Can We Talk? A Financial Guide for Baby Boomers Assisting Their Elderly Parents.

He tells Mindy Todd on her New England NPR radio show The Point:

What I’ve learned is there’s two things that are most important to our elder parents. First is maintaining control of their lives and how …Read more ›

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Tips to Get Siblings Involved With Caring for Elderly Parents

It’s hard to be an only child caring for aging parents. But sometimes, people with siblings aren’t much better off. The responsibilities tend to fall on one person’s shoulders.

The sandwich-generation website FamilyGoesStrong.com has some tips on how to get siblings involved. For example, show them what needs doing.

It is helpful to draft a visual schedule so your siblings can see the amount of work that needs to be done. When you come up with …Read more ›

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Men Less Willing Than Women to Move to Assisted Living, Expert Says

Is your elderly father resisting the idea of moving to assisted living even though he needs the help and socializing? He’s not alone. According to a story in The Washington Post, men are less likely than women to accept the need for such a move. Maddy Dychtwald, co-founder of the consulting firm AgeWave, told the paper:

 “Women tend to just go with it. Men don’t. It’s that same old story …Read more ›

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What to Do When Your Elderly Parents Won’t Get Help

If you’re concerned about your elderly parents’ well-being but they simply won’t hire help, it’s time for you to get prepared, says Kathy Martin, director of residence counseling at Friendship Village, a retirement community in Ohio.

Chances are, an emergency will eventually force a care decision, and you don’t want to be stuck making a quick choice without the time to research. Martin writes at the Iowa news site WCFCourier.com:

Check into the various types of …Read more ›

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What To Do If There’s a Problem at a Senior Care Facility?

Nobody wants to be in this situation. You get a call saying there might be abuse going on where your grandma lives. You hear about problems from others. Sometimes, you might not hear anything, but just stumble upon some of the clues yourself.

All states have an ombudsman program to deal with situations like this. An ombudsman is a government official who investigates complaints made by citizens about facilities like this. For California, for example, …Read more ›

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