Communication Articles

Critical conversations need to be had with your parents prior to the move to a senior living community. Difficult discussions may also be required between family members who have different opinions about the best way to care for your parents. Good communication is always crucial to a successful move.

Senior-Care Conversation Starters: Talking to Your Aging Parents

Bringing up subjects like assisted living and in-home care to your aging parents isn’t easy. But it’s gotta be done. In The Charlotte Observer, social worker and gerontologist Sara Thompson suggests a few conversation starters:

“I agree that the house is becoming tough to maintain. Can we talk about some pros and cons to staying here?”

“You planned financially for your retirement, and maybe we can discuss the possibility for a new living situation a few …Read more ›

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“I’m Not Old!” Tips to Get “Young” Aging Parents to Accept Help

Sometimes, when aging parents refuse to accept needed help, it’s because they don’t want to think of themselves as old! That’s what elder-communications expert Carolyn Rosenblatt argues at Forbes.com.

So when you’re dealing with resistance, modify your approach to work around that obstacle, she suggests. For example, “Use the ‘humor me’ approach. If you plead your case as something for your peace of mind, not focusing on your parent’s age, it can work.”

Our parents don’t …Read more ›

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Eldercare Communication Tip: Offer Aging Parents Options

Sometimes, more than one solution can keep an aging parent safe and healthy. Deciding which option is best isn’t necessarily the adult child’s responsibility—or perhaps even his or her right, suggests eldercare expert Diane Walker, R.N., M.S.

Walker offers tips on starting the eldercare conversation with your aging parents in a recent article for Dorland Health. Family caregivers should “not to make the decisions for their elderly parents,” she says.

Instead, they should offer more than …Read more ›

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Arguing With Siblings Over Eldercare? Elder Mediation to the Rescue

When siblings disagree over how to care for their aging parents, these days, they can turn to a trained outsider for help. It’s called elder mediation, and it’s booming, reports AARP Bulletin.

In this fast-growing field, a trained, neutral conflict-resolution professional—sometimes an attorney or therapist—meets with adult siblings and, if they’re alive and able, their parents, to sort out contentious or unresolved issues relating to Mom and Dad. The mediator’s job is to defuse the …Read more ›

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Tips for When Your Elderly Parent Refuses Help

For aging parents, accepting help can mean letting go of something else—pride, fear, denial, routine. And many just refuse to do that, suggests Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N., B.S.N., P.H.N., author of The Boomer’s Guide To Aging Parents.

To help your aging parent consider home care, assisted living or a nursing home, Rosenblatt offers a few tips at Forbes.com. For example:

If feasible, we always encourage a family meeting, including not only adult children, but caring …Read more ›

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Tips for Caring for a Stubborn Aging Parent: Know When to Let Go

Sometimes, aging parents refuse to hire in-home care, go to adult daycare or move to assisted living. But you believe they need to. What to do?

In a post for On Faith, a feature from Newsweek and The Washington Post, Eileen Flanagan suggests considering the serenity prayer: learn to accept the things you can’t change and change the things you can.

“Ironically, accepting my mother’s strength helped her to accept her limits,” says Flanagan, author of …Read more ›

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How to Coordinate Neighborly Help for Your Aging Parent

When an aging parent comes home from the hospital and you’re not able to help 24/7, their friends are often happy to step in. These days, there are free online programs for coordinating such help, reports The New York Times blog The New Old Age. For example:

Lotsa Helping Hands coordinates assistance, so families who need help … won’t get five casseroles dropped off one day, then find that everyone’s stopped calling two weeks later.

The …Read more ›

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How to Make It Easier for Your Aging Parents to Accept Help

Independence can be hard to give up. When you recognize that your aging parent needs help, there are ways to introduce the idea to make it less invasive and overwhelming. A recent article at FOXBusiness offers a few tips. For one thing, start talking early, and include your parents:

Too many people view the conversation as a decision made solely by the children. In fact, elder parents need to have a say, assuming they have …Read more ›

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Talking Tips: Insight Into How Your Aging Parents Feel

Adult children often struggle emotionally when their parents start to show signs of old age. But, says elder-care planner Wendy Johnstone, they’re not the only ones. Aging parents have their own issues. She writes, at Our Big Earth:

It’s important to remember that our aging parents receiving care are experiencing their own roller coaster of emotions – knowing that they need help but resisting for fear of losing control and independence, feelings of uselessness and …Read more ›

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When Your Aging Parent Rebels – and Good Things Happen

In 2009, Anne Underwood’s 87-year-old father moved from Maryland to Georgia, much to her horror. He was headed toward a newfound love he’d met online.

Around the same time, Rosalie A. Kane’s ailing father was doing “things few nursing home or assisted living administrators would tolerate.”

He hired his helper through want ads rather than use a licensed home care agency, because that gave him more flexibility. He took his medications without assistance, determining which pill …Read more ›

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