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How to Select a Nursing Home in a Crisis

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nursing homeWhat do you do when your parents are in sudden need of a dramatic increase in care?


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#ElderCareChat 11/18/2015: Senior Living Search 101

shutterstock_226249162-2Fact: 47 participants + 711 total tweets + 5,576,413 impressions = one hour chock full of resources for anyone considering a senior living search now or in the future. (more…)

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#ElderCareChat 5/6/15 Recap: Stressful Caregiving Scenarios and Solutions

shutterstock_130607537During Wednesday’s live discussion, 40 new and returning participants were presented with several common conundrums that can make the already challenging work of day-to-day caregiving even more stressful. Instead of simply discussing those scenarios, attendees presented several solutions for each — many of the answers originating from the real-life experiences of those who have been, or are currently, caregivers. …Read more ›

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#ElderCareChat 2/4/15 Recap: Helping Family Through a Caregiving Experience

Review highlights from this week's well-attended #ElderCareChat (89 people contributed) on the family matters of caregiving.During Wednesday’s live discussion, a large group — 89 attendees total! — flooded the tweet stream with their thoughts, tips, memories, and musings about the “family affair” that is a caregiving experience.


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Senior Care and Siblings: Beware Old Rivalries

Just because you’re a family therapist doesn’t mean all of your family relationships are smooth.

Like many adult children of aging parents, psychologist Barry J. Jacobs is struggling to come to agreement with his brother about their mom’s care. He tells his story at the AARP website and shares advice he’s trying to put into place himself.

One of his tips is to remember that you’re all grown up—both you and your …Read more ›

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Expert’s Tips for Agreeing With Siblings About Parents’ Care

When you’ve argued with siblings all your life and then have to agree on something as important as your parents’ long-term care, how do you finally come to agreement? How do you make sure everyone’s at peace with whatever decision is made?

Patricia Smith, founder of the Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project, offers some advice about that in a column featured at the website for The Leader, a newspaper in Corning, NY. …Read more ›

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Paying for Elder Care: What’s a “Collective Sibling Agreement”?

Often, when a parent of multiple children needs elder care, some siblings shoulder more of the responsibilities than others. This can breed resentment if not handled carefully.

One option is to draft a collective sibling agreement, suggests the Home Care Assistance blog in a post about ways to pay for in-home care:

A sibling agreement is a great way for children to pay for their parents’ care while avoiding tension and resentment. …Read more ›

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Caregivers: How to Make the Thanksgiving Craziness Work for You

Happy Thanksgiving week!

Will you be seeing family this year? Thanksgiving with the relatives can be wonderful but also stressful—especially if you’re a family caregiver.

For one thing, caregivers tend to want to stick to normal routines, says the Family Caregiver Alliance. Their suggestion? Good luck with that. You’ve just gotta face it: The holidays are crazy. At their website, they offer advice for when the siblings come over. Tip number one:

Accept the reality …Read more ›

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Siblings Not Natural Caregivers? They Can Still Help.

If you’ve taken over caregiver responsibilities because your siblings just aren’t naturally good at it, that doesn’t mean they can’t learn, suggests fellow caregiver Ruth Johnson in The Times News, a North Carolina newspaper. At least maybe they can give you a little respite.

Responding to a female reader who says her brothers aren’t “very adept” caregivers, Johnson advises:

Since your brothers are available but not involved, it’s …Read more ›

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The Right Way to Fight With Siblings About Elderly Parents

Do you know how to fight right? If you disagree with siblings about what to do for elderly parents, elder-care mediator Carolyn Rosenblatt has some tips for you.

At, she lists seven ground rules to establish when heated discussions loom. For example, if you’re dealing with a brother or sister who’s feeling overwhelmed:

Ask your sibling what he or she needs. It sounds simple, but this rarely happens. You can find …Read more ›

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